It’s Mother’s Day here in the States!
Happy Mom’s Day for you if you/yours celebrate it….
BUT if you have a toxic mom, it’s ok NOT to feel happy joy joy.
When I was growing up, one never missed Mothers Day.
Nor Mom’s birdieDay (which is why Honorable Son 1 was born one day before my birthday – I figured that by the time I was in my 80s, I’d want my own darned day to myself. So even though he was due on my birthday… he arrived one day sooner. But I digress).
Mom never really liked flowers on Mothers Day (but weird plants were appreciated. I remember one day my brother gave her a bulb-like unitentifiable “thing” – 40 years later its still growing in my home). Creative gifts were always liked.
Now that I’m a mom, I realize that what *I* want… is peace, harmony and laughter in my home.
I’m extremely lucky that for the most part… the relationships I have with my kids are usually solid, positive and rather… grand, all around. Of course, ought spots will happen too.
That being said…
There are some folk out there who have toxic moms.
Some folk who have been raised to always doubt themselves…
… and to those people I say:
It’s not you.
It’s never *been* you.
Being a mom, alas, never automatically gifts women with wisdom and sanity….
… some women simply never were cut out to be moms.
But they still have kids….
… and those kids suffer from the lack of compassion and empathy a toxic parent emits.
So if you simply cannot wish your Mom a Happy Mother’s Day because of the toxicity…
We all do the very best we can but yep… sometimes the collateral damage feels just too great.
And if you need help in dealing with Toxic Moms, consider:
Sane mom or no might you have… we are all worthy of appreciation and love.
Do your best to pass on that love and appreciation wherever you can…
Happy Moms Day to all!