🌠 Listening instead of Hearing

One of the biggest challenges I’ve witnessed other people to thru (including myself) is …

They hear other people.

But they truly do not *listen* to other people.

And that can lead to a huge amount of misunderstandings, resentment and ‘way ‘way more when dealing with those who are important to you.

One rather effective way to listen well is, well, listen first, obviously, but then when it’s time for you to respond, start with:

“Here is what I got from what you were saying. (then repeat back what you heard). Did I get it right?”

If you *did* get it right, the other person will say, yes (and realizes that you are truly listening *and* understanding). Then it can be your time to address what you finally *understand*.

True – this kind of effective communications can be very character-building (and lengthy) to have, especially if the other person keeps interrupting or reacts angrily etc.etc.etc. Thus, before even starting, sometimes having a 3rd person there to mediate can help a whole lot (because said 3rd person can cut off anyone who speaks out of turn).

Your takeaway?

The vast majority of times that people have intense arguments/disagreements will often include a huge heap ‘o misunderstandings from *both* parties.

It’s generally never one person OR the other who contributes towards poor communications… it’s both. If you can drop your own ego and work towards actual compromising with those who are important to you…

Well, that’s a Very Good Thing indeed.

Enjoy!