How To Bravely Close The Door On What You Love and Move On – Barbara Is Back!

Good morning!

My gosh, what an incredible hero's journey my past 3 months have been.

It's one that has really pushed my inner spirit to the limits…and yet, one that I really think I needed to experience big-time.

Lots of things happened!

I realized I couldn't fix my lower body but *could* improve on my upper…so I got a breast lift and a face lift.  I now look better than I did in my late 20s.

And let me tell you, the physical results turned out great!  I finally have the chinline that has escaped me since, oh, wow, I don't know….when I was 12?

'Course, I did end up with an infection that was mighty tough to eradicate (still dealing with it, actually)...but hey, these things happen.

All in all, I love the new me….because *finally*, my outer wrapping (ie, my body) is now just as magnificent as is my inner spirit.

You see, back in my younger years, I lacked the self-confidence to truly appreciate the kind of person I was….and never really gave myself credit for all that I have to offer.

And now, well….I have both the maturity AND the confidence to appreciate all of the goodness that really is in my life.

All together now….YAY!

But.

That's not what I want to talk about now, not at all.  That was simply one personal hero's journey on which I embarked…one that focused solely upon me me me.

Instead, I want to share with you one crucial idea about life in general.

And it's this.

How to close the door on what you love and move on.

• Have you ever had friendships that spanned across time and space?
• Have you ever indulged in a hobby that made you feel profoundly joyful and fulfilled?

Next question…

Have you ever realized…you have to choose to shut the door, let go…and move on?

This just happened to me this morning….and wow, it was like a kick to the gut.

You see, for the past 4 years or so, I've made a good part of my social enjoyment…my karate dojo.

I utterly love seeing the folks there, taking my kids there, etc.etc.etc.

But due to unforeseen circumstances, I now realize…I have to proactively choose to let go of my "need" for it.

I won't go into the reasons just now, but did want to point out something precious that I want you to personally realize.

When you choose to let go and move on, you're choosing to give yourself permission to heal.

I'm a big believer in taking full, 130% ownership of my actions. 

Nobody *makes* me feel a certain way, I choose to feel that way….and so own any emotions that result.

The plain fact is, physically…..I can no longer *do* Martial Arts.

And for me to hold onto what is no longer a valid activity….is hindering my ability to grow.

I deserve better than that.

As do you.

I've learned these past 3 months or so that while it's great to have desires and goals….being unrealistic ends up only painfully hurting you.

Because….

Just because one door closes, it doesn't mean you're shut up in an empty room that's lacking any other exits at all.

You have to honor yourself and give yourself permission to face your grief bravely, thank your guardian angel for what you did have and what you did experience…..

And then…..just let it go.

View it as a treasured memory.

And let it go.

The future is always dynamic, it's always in motion.  Who knows what will happen tomorrow, next week, next month, next year?

You certainly don't…..so by grieving for what you've lost, you're only short-changing what's waiting for yourself in the future.

And you're worth more than that.  As am I.

So here's what I'm planning on doing for the month of April.

About 4 months ago, I was asked to write a chapter for:

Guerrilla Marketing for Job Hunters 3.0: How to Stand Out from the Crowd and Tap Into the Hidden Job Market using Social Media and 999 other Tactics Today

That's coming out in May.

Thus, I think that during April, I will use my sites to focus on both job hunting resources as well as my standard internet marketing goodness.

You see, I *own* my actions.

And I can either bemoan what's going on….or I can say, f*ck that, let's get back into the driver's seat and create more miracles online.

So stay tuned!  What you're going to find in the next month….will completely knock your socks off and then proceed to trim your toenails with style and flair.

In other words….Barbara….is back.  🙂 

And it's great to see you too!

Grow strong,

Barbara Ling