Morning! Have you ever thought what’s required for romance?
I’ll tell you the secret of the Ling family (this year will be our 15th anniversary):
We can find romance in the most mundane things imaginable.
Take yesterday, for example. Yesterday, my husband and I had 4 kid-free hours! In preparation for this, I visited said husband in his office and suggested, hey! We have all this time for ourselves; let’s make it romantic! He eagerly agreed, and here’s what we did.
- Romantic destination planning! It was Saturday, we had only 4 hours…the obviously choice, of course, was hitting all the local garage sales together.
- Romantic breakfast! Because it was already 9am, we drove to our local McDonalds and dined on fine eggs and sausage.
- Romantic time together! We traveled our county, hitting all the scheduled sales (and some others unlisted!). I got 4 Manga books for the kids – retail price $17.95, Mom price, 50 cents each…Mom rocks!), several household doohickies, and sooner than you could imagine, the hours had flown by and it was time to retrieve the children.
What’s the lesson to gain from all that?
Romance…is found within the state of mind.
Certainly, we enjoy our alone time together and our relaxing by the firelight and all of those typical romantic thingees couples can do.
But!! Bunches of extras…simply aren’t needed. We can create romance by simply being in the same room together.
The challenge with many of the traditional ‘romantic activities’ are that, well, they cost ‘way too much money. Think about it! Fine dining can easily run $100, it costs $60 to gas up the van…the list goes on. And while we could certainly afford such things, we’re at the stage in our lives that we don’t need extra fluff/etc. to enjoy romance….we can uncover it simply by being together and enjoying each other’s company.
What about you? Are you currently in a relationship that’s crying out for lost zing? If so, don’t feel that you have to orchestrate an epic outing worthy of Hollywood gossip….instead, consider an activity you both enjoy and allows you to spend quiet time together simply talking about life, liberty, and COMMUNICATE how lucky you feel that your spouse/SO is in your life. Remember the secret to a happy, satisfying, lasting relationship:
You can be happy yourself, and he can be happy by himself as well…. but when you’re together, you enhance each other’s life dramatically.
In other words, neither of you are dependent upon the other for a happy life! You both take ownership of your own happiness….and both willingly give to make the other person joyful as well.
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Remember! The dating and romance doesn’t end simply because you choose to marry! Always make certain to show your spouse/significant other how important he or she is to you…..it helps keep the home fires burning.
Enjoy,
Barbara Ling
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Beginners relationship tips: Romance is a state of mind.
Intermediate and/or Advanced relationship tips: If you balk at McDonalds for romance, you could always bring a fresh flower and a Waterford vase along with you. 🙂
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