Tell Yourself Today – Take A Chance To…

Sometimes, our emotions get to us sooo much, we kinda sorta implode.

And I just discovered that early menopause can really throw a delightfully huge jagged bit of razor sharp rusty knifeness into the whole mix!

Sigh.

Yesterday was a complete and utter non-optimal situation on my part due to some misunderstandings I had with my husband.  It was sooo non-optimal (all together now, How non-optimal was it, Barbara?) that I deactivated my Facebook account, deactivated my MamaBear site, and just really hoped I could find a friendly bus to run me over.

Know what I mean, aye?

Well, around 12:30pm or so, common sense bravely poked its nose out to me, and told me that I was really being quite non-optimal to my spouse.  So I took the chance to open a dialogue which was received very well indeed!

He's the one who pointed out that perhaps menopause is going to be a long-term guest at my home; he had never seen me in such a state before.

Whee!

At around 2:45pm, I picked up my eldest who took one look at me and said, Mom…you look like hell.  I'm getting legitimately worried about you!

Turns out, all the kids plus the husband were of the same mind.

Soon after, I called it a night and spent the next, oh, 14-15 hours sleeping or throwing up.

Whee!

It's the next day today, and I think I'm basically back to normal.  But wow, the main lesson the whole thing taught me was:

1.)  *Tell* your family how to deal with you.

My husband didn't know how to react when I was flinging myself headfirst off the logic train.  So later on, I told him, just hold me and let it run its course.  When emotions are running high, feeling safe is a big boon.

2.)  Listen to your family when they talk.

If your kids tell you how lousy you look, don't ignore it – chances are, you've close to collapsing in a heap.

3.)  Let your family take care of you.

While throwing up all over the place, my eldest asked me if perhaps Ramen noodles would help (that's my cureall for them). 

So she made up a batch and brought it to me…it settled my stomach bigtime.  Smart kid!

Thus today, tell yourself that if you're about to go off the deep end, give your family and friends coping mechanisms for the best ways to deal with you!

It will really help save their sanity…and yours too.

Grow strong,

Barbara Ling